You really have two choices
- You can let life pass you by while you hide in shame in the shadows of your illness
- You say “screw it” and you live life anyway
The first option will bring you pain, sadness and endless misery
The second option will open up life in ways you could only imagine. But it is going to be painful. You are going to have to force yourself to do things you don’t want to do, you are going to feel uncomfortable the entire time, you are going to at times want to crawl back into the hole – because it feels safe in the hole.
The “safety” you feel in the hole isn’t safe at all – it is a waste of your time, your life, and the gift that BDD gives you.
What is the gift?
The gift is empathy, understanding of the human condition, love for human beings, a warmth that defines the essential nature of life. The essential nature of life being that we are indeed not defined by our outer appearance and that we as humans are most beautiful when we are our most vulnerable.
You know this to be true, but until you can tap into it, and use the BDD as your force to do good in the world, you will remain limited, restrained by the imaginary confines of the judgement, that you place on yourself. And it is you who has placed these limitations on yourself, no other person can do this to you.
As I overcome my BDD, I am thankful for the very nature of my illness. I can see it not as an illness but as a force for good in this world.
Because how many people feel shame?
Lots, let us no longer be forces for more shame, but the defining factor in the war against it.